The movement of solo living was born in Sweden in the 60's and slowly but steadily has spread to Southern Europe. It is not only a women’s movement but also a way of life towards greater autonomy. At present, women are studying, working, struggling to earn a place in the sun. More and more women are living alone and they prefer their loneliness than share their life with another person. Based on the findings of social scientists it can be argued that one in four women live alone.
More specifically, according to sociologist Jean-Paul Kaufmann, who has devoted a book to the question "The only Woman and Prince Charming", women live alone promoting the model of independent and successful woman. The fervent supporters of solo living go out with their friends and have lovers without commitments. Consequently, they live solo, but not lonely. They are happy as well, fully engaged in the active life, without men.
Contrary to this, the social pressure is unbearable for solo women. It is believed that women’s place is at home and the ultimate goal of life is to get married and have kids. They love their freedom and autonomy and feel uncomfortably when they apologise for their personal choices.
The dilemma becomes less bearable when their biological clock start ticking. They feel alone when their girlfriends betray them and get married. The dilemma is to compromise or not to compromise? To follow the social rules or to wait for the right guy? Even if the image of Prince Charming has never forgotten, they are not ready or eager to give up their independence at any price.
To summarize, Kaufmann believes that even if some women prefer freedom and autonomy and the solo living movement has started well the truth is that women want to be loved and secure.
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